December 2010
84 posts
White girl: I find that women from other races tend to be very, very ugly or very, very hot. There's not much in between. Whereas white women are usually not very hot or very ugly but fall in the middle.
Me (Asian girl): Um. That's because your standards of beauty are normalized around white women. You're taught to think that way through the barrage of media presenting whiteness as normal and color as exotic or repulsive.
White Girl: No, I think I'm right. I've talked to other people and they all agree with me.
Me: ...
A year ago, both of us 19, in a car with other people.
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Slut-Shaming →
malefeminist:
crystalsavestheday:
Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings. Furthermore, it’s “about the implication that if a woman has sex that traditional society disapproves of, she should feel guilty and inferior”...
“I remember feeling ashamed for calling myself a feminist when I had blatantly...”
– Portia de Rossi, Unbearable Lightness, upon reading The Beauty Myth for the first time (via sarahgraham7)
Passed by this in the bookstore and currently really regretting not buying it. Next time, definitely.
(via malefeminist)
“A person of good intelligence and of sensitivity cannot exist in this society...”
– George Carlin (via growingupindie)
jjaayyron:
TEXTing with my crush :)
ughh. she’s taking too long to TEXT back. D:<
Oh. i FORGOT to click ‘SEND’ FCCKKK!!!
Aw, this has happened to me.
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in...”
– Kalama Sutta, The Buddha (via saaraeliisavaris)
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A little something for rape apologists worldwide:
mehreenkasana:
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Patchwork Ghost: Just Another Example of Rape... →
patchworkghost:
When I was a sophomore in high school, I ended up in the all-girl’s PE class. Juniors and seniors got to choose from all-girls (which was actually the toughest class or maybe all the girls who took it didn’t want to do anything and thought it would be a sexist and therefore easier, “powderpuff” class and complained when it was a normal class), all-boys, co-ed, or personal...
“THE HANDY GUIDE TO NOT RAPING PEOPLE IN SEVEN EASY STEPS
1. When you meet a...”
– Ben Pobjie: The Handy Guide to Not Raping People (via monkeytypist)
Yeahhhhhh
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“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
– Frederick Douglass (via revolutionnow)
Yoda said something like that too
(via ronenreblogs)
c0c0laroux asked: hey aria! we had mr. pafumi's directing class together at ifta a couple years ago. i recently found your blog on tumblr and all i can say is wow. what you are advocating is brilliant. i love everything you are fighting for and your insight truly inspires me. i hope everything can learn a thing or two from you.
c0c0laroux asked: hey aria! we had mr. pafumi's directing class together at ifta a couple years ago. i recently found your blog on tumblr and all i can say is wow. what you are advocating is brilliant. i love everything you are fighting for and your insight truly inspires me. i hope everything can learn a thing or two from you.
“YOU CAN’T BE BISEXUAL, THERE’S NO SUCH THING. YOU’RE EITHER STRAIGHT OR GAY. BI...”
– my ex-girlfriend (via microaggressions)
I hate it when gay people belittle bisexuality. I always find it incredible how there are gay people who declare bisexuality fake, or as a way to get attention, considering how gay folks have been trying to get straight folks to understand how our...
The Pen and the Sword: Words I am Currently Trying... →
tchy:
Bitch, as used in a derogatory, negative, or non-reclamative sense. This is not just applied to people but also to any time I say “it hurts like a bitch,” “it’s a bitch to do,” or anything related.
Any words relating to female genitalia, as used in a derogatory, negative, or non-reclamative sense. This isn’t a huge problem for me, but I have been known to slip up occasionally, so I ...
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Privilege and radical sobriety vs. straight edge →
tsugaheterophylla:
I’ve been sober and drug-free for about a year and a half. My personal sobriety is something that’s really important to me, but I really don’t care if you drink/smoke/use drugs (although I get super uncomfortable if people are intoxicated around me, especially straight men, especially in safer spaces). Although I’ve identified as straight edge in the past, I’m torn about...
When white people say they need lotion
toodopeforthesefolks:
:D
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the patriarchy phrasebook →
humorlessfeminist:
Patriarchy: ‘He loved women’ Translation: ‘He fucked a lot of women’
Patriarchy: ‘You’re a feminazi/ bitch/ dyke/ delusional woman/ whore/ desperate for a fuck’ Translation: ‘I am threatened by your argument and am scared of you and it’
Patriarchy: ‘Smile, love!’ Translation: ‘Why are you not deferential to my masculinity?’
Patriarchy: ‘I’m not being racist/ sexist/...
“Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how...”
– This is a damn good read. (via nikkiwiley)
Sometimes I'm dancing to pretty good club music,...
“Because if this is gonna be a Christian nation that DOESN’T help the poor,...”
– Stephen Colbert
The Rad Feminist: Love, Lust, and Lackthereof: The... →
Love, Lust, and Lackthereof: The Nature of Sexual Orientation
I don’t like labels, and I don’t like someone telling me where I fall on a spectrum. I don’t want to be put on a spectrum. I want to be who I am be accepted just as I strive to do for others. Why is there such a focus and categorizing people, even in the queer community? Grouping people is the primary way people establish...
“Privilege means you can walk away from the conversation whenever you like...”
– Garland Grey.
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Girl playing with dolls nearby: Are you a girl or a boy?
Me: I'm a girl.
Girl: You should act like one.
I'm 10 years old and climbing a tree with some boys from the neighborhood.
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"HOW DO TWO GIRLS HAVE SEX?"
I’ve been asked this a lot lately, and I’m sick of it. At first I was perfectly fine with answering it to the best of my abilities, but I am no longer as tolerant. Since coming out as a gay woman, I knew that I would be required to explain myself as a sexual minority, but this question is my most frequent and my most loathed one.
Before I even tackle the question itself, I’d...
“[C]onsider the deep divisions between blacks and whites in terms of how many in...”
– Tim Wise, Between Barack and a Hard Place: Racism and White Denial in the Age of Obama (via tsugaheterophylla)
There need to be more Feminist men.
Yes.
“It’s genius, really. Shame women into being chaste and tell them that all they...”
–
Jessica Valenti, The Purity Myth (via cocknbull)
*snaps for Jessica* Yes, speak the truth.
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What the Assange Case Says About Rape in America →
“Now, we don’t know if Assange is guilty or innocent - but we do know that the accusations against him have been badly reported, misconstrued and generally pooh-poohed. In the same way that Assange’s document dump held a mirror to U.S. diplomacy, the accusations against him and the subsequent fallout reflect our country’s overly narrow understanding of sexual assault,...
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Feminist Reading List:
Winter break is coming up, that means I get to read for fun! Well, more for self-empowerment and the intellectual pursuit of inspiring social change in my life, but that’s fun to me!
Here are some of my choices:
Women, Race, and Class by Angela Davis
Colonize This!: Young Women of Color in Today’s Feminism
Feminist Theory From Margin to Center by Bell Hooks
Enlightened Sexism by...