I try not to delude myself into thinking that diversity can fix the representation of POCs/GSMs/women/and combination of the like.

Like, Glee champions itself on diversity but it’s still pretty racist and sexist and pretty poopy on a lot of things. A show just can’t be diverse, it’s gotta be grounded in the reality of that diversity and the ramifications of how diversity would play a part in that world.

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By: Eden Hansom

I don’t have an issue with homosexuality. You are what you are. I have an issue with women, the “butch” or “Doms” (I’m still learning), actually believing that they can stand toe to toe with a man. Maybe in some cases you can but the reality of it is that YOU ARE A WOMAN.

I was watching this video on World Star Hip Hop (go figure) where I saw this man knock the piss out of this woman, who happened to be a “butch”. I’m not going to repost because either way (you can google), it’s a man hitting a woman and I don’t condone that. HOWEVER, she kept on jumping in this man’s face like she was a man. I understand your lifestyle and this is you….how you live day to day, but the reason why that man could knock the living shit out that woman was just that. He was a man and at the end of it all, SHE WAS A WOMAN!

There’s a lot of us who don’t give a damn about your sexual preference. Just realize that certain situations will be TRUE testimonials to who you really are. Case in point, THE WOMAN who got knocked down like a man….she went down like a woman. 

I’m just sayin’.

Sidebar: I don’t pretend like I’m an expert in anything. I just comment on what I see and what I KNOW. 

There is so much biological essentialism and enforcement of rigid cissexist gender paradigms, I can’t take even handle it right now.

First of all, “butch” is not a sexual preference, it’s a gender expression, you can’t conflate the two. As someone who IS butch, I can tell you that my butch-ness has nothing to do with my sexual preference and nothing really to do with my gender or my sexuality. I know that I am a woman; I’m so much of a woman that you probably can’t handle my woman-ness and my womanly ways! I’m the kind of woman who loves being a woman! But butch is not sexual preference nor gender. It’s not about trying to be a man at all! It’s just being butch! It’s playing with gender and kicking it in the face and going, “Take THAT, gender normativity, I’m going to do things my own way!” I don’t want to be a man, I don’t care to be whatever a man “is” because I don’t feel like a man at all. I’m a butch woman. I’m what you may call “masculine,” but that doesn’t make me any more of a man at all, it just makes me more me.

And what’s up with your second paragraph? Oh my gosh, a woman tried to defend herself as she was being beaten up! She is such a man for trying to stand up for herself and fight back! Because men are violent, violent creatures and women always wait for a man to intervene when they are being hurt, gosh that makes perfect sense.

So yeah, basically, enforcing femininity on women and masculinity on men and subjecting them to heteronormative standards of gender performance is gross, assuming that men and women are biologically tied to ridiculous notions of strength and capacity for violence is gross, and shaming gender expression and performance that sit outside the normalized gender paradigms to the extent that you focus on their gender expression more than violence against them is gross too.

[TW: mis-gendering, cissexism]

After seven-year-old transgender girl Bobby Montoya was rejected from joining a Girl Scout troop in Colorado by its scout master, The Girl Scouts of Colorado released an official statement admonishing the scout master’s actions, saying, “If a child identifies as a girl and the child’s family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout.” Apparently unbeknown to the scout master, The Girl Scouts of America actually has a policy of being pro-transgender.

Now, I think this is a great story and I’m glad a nationwide organization such as the Girl Scouts speak out in support of transgender youth. However, I want to focus more on the largely ignorant and disrespectful news coverage of this story. Some of it is good - agreeing with the Girl Scouts that Bobby should be allowed to join and are respectful of Bobby’s gender identity. However, many news outlets use wrong terminology and are downright disrespectful. Some mistakenly refer to Bobby as a “boy” or “transgender boy,” when she identifies as a girl. They use incorrect pronouns, referring to Bobby as “he,” “son,” and “him.” Even when they interview Bobby and she refers to herself as a girl, the news outlets continue to mis-gender her throughout almost every article available. Some titles of the articles even imply Bobby’s gender identity is a delusion, such as the article from the LA Times - “Girl Scouts of Colorado Welcomes Boy - If He Thinks He’s A Girl.”

That’s right. Thinks he’s a girl.

This trend is one that shows itself pretty much every time there is a news story about transgender people: News outlets almost refuse to acknowledge a transgender person’s gender identity, opting instead to refer to what they may defend is their “birth sex/gender.” This improper pronoun usage is inherently disrespectful to transgender people, one that is also a possible trigger for many. It’s a poor reflection on the way that Americans at large view transgender people, who would rather believe that someone’s gender identity is a problem in their head, rather than an actual identity that should be respected.

Please feel free to ask me any questions or inquire about personal experiences about me and my own asexuality. If you want to know about my relationship preferences, the terminology I prefer, my “coming out” story, or anything else related to that facet of my sexuality, I can answer you, no judgment at all!

LET’S TALK ABOUT RESPECTING BOUNDARIES

LET’S TALK ABOUT HOW NECESSARY ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT CAN BE

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

Though almost all of the population will have a sexual orientation that corresponds with their romantic orientation, and therefore “sexual orientation” can encompass both of those feelings, the separation of sexuality into sexual and romantic orientation can provide a necessary distinction and accurate description for people such as asexuals whose orientations are more complicated and nuanced to provide accurate descriptions. 

My sexual orientation:

Asexual.

My romantic orienation:

Homoromantic.

My personal label:

Asexual lesbian.

If they wanted to try different pants, sure, but don’t put her back in that ridiculous bikini bottom. I feel like state of women is comics is taking such a regressive turn just as I was feeling like good changes were coming.